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[Speaking-Out-Loud March 2013] Just breathe, deeply
April 01, 2013
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There are many situations calling for repeated presentations of essentially the same material. Examples - inductions for new employees or 'how tos' of any type. Once you have a formula ticking off all the essential boxes it's tempting to keep using it. While that's understandable, it's also dangerous as you risk losing your audience.
How many times can you recycle a presentation before it becomes stale, flat, routine; lifeless?
If you can repeat the entire thing without pausing to think, or even consider your audience as being distinct from the one who heard it the last time, it's time to change. You're on auto pilot and when you're in that mode you've blocked off any possibility of real communication. Your audience is blanked out.
(Here's a real life example, one you'll possibly identify with. I remember a trainer who re-hashed the same set of notes for years complete with jokes so old they'd grown mold. Nobody laughed; instead they rolled their eyes in disdain and were embarrassed. His audience endured his presentation because they had to!)
Tips to tell if your presentation is tired:
The cure is simple. Toss it all out and begin again at the beginning. The key questions remain the same but the answers may be very different this time around.
For more about creating genuinely audience focused content check this page on building rapport.
My mother had a cure-all. It didn't matter what the situation was, her first response was a command. My cat was killed by a car. "Breathe!" My brother and I quarreled. "Breathe!" I was turned to stone through fear, standing in the wings of a stage unable to move on cue. "Breathe!"
Breathing. The Vietnamese Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh says:
“Breath is the bridge which connects life to consciousness, which unites your body to your thoughts. Whenever your mind becomes scattered, use your breath as the means to take hold of your mind again.”
It appears my Mother and he were in agreement.
Held, irregular or shallow breathing increases tension and anxiety. And it follows that when the essential ingredient bringing thought or words to life is disturbed or stressed it is reflected in the quality of our voices. They are strained in tone, higher pitched and less fluent.
The very first place to start dismantling whatever tension you experience though speaking in public is through breathing well. Here's a simple exercise. Use it when you realize you are beginning to do the things you normally do when you're under stress. Eg. bite your nails, check everything for the umpteenth time or snap at people without provocation.
You'll find when you're through you will be more relaxed, alert and able to think and speak more clearly.
You can find variations on this exercise, as well as links to more, here.
A round up of posts I found stimulating. I hope you enjoy them too.
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