Engagement Party Speeches

- how to, what to - guidelines for preparation

He loves me, he loves me not, he loves me!

Engagement party speeches: the not so secret ingredients behind giving a good one are planning ahead, plus preparation, and practice.

Trust me, that seemingly effortless easy eloquence you admire in others will have been very carefully rehearsed!

For a heartfelt and memorable engagement party speech, here are some guidelines. Adapt them to suit your circumstances.

Remember this is NOT the wedding speech. That is ahead. What is needed now is a brief (1 - 2 minutes) speech marking and celebrating the commitment to marry.

Engagement Party Speeches - Who Speaks?

Who delivers engagement party speeches depends on the style of the event.

Is it formal? Or informal?
Who is hosting the party?

Traditionally the event is held by the bride's family and the father gives the opening speech.

However things are not always traditional!

The speech could also be delivered by the groom-to-be, the bride-to-be, the mother of the bride or groom, a close friend of either of them, or a much respected senior family member. A speech in reply and/or other speeches may be expected depending on the circumstances.

When in the course of celebration is the best place for the toasts?

The most appropriate spots for the speeches are at the beginning, after everybody has arrived, just before eating or cutting the cake if you have one and at the close of the function.

Check with the party organizers when they have scheduled your toast.

Engagement Party Speeches - Content

To make your speech flow easily from idea to the next and to include all you want to express it's essential to plan.

You'll need an opening, a speech body where you give your main ideas or thoughts about the engagement, and a conclusion.

"Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning."

In the opening:

  • introduce yourself. There may be guests who don't know you and your relationship to the couple.
  • welcome everybody. If there are very special guests or people who have gone to extraordinary lengths to be present mention them by name.
  • give thanks to everybody for coming together to share and celebrate the occasion.

In the body (middle) of your engagement party speech:

  • share a story or anecdote about the engaged couple/your daughter/son/best friend
  • share the pleasure you feel as a result of the engagement

In the conclusion of your speech:

  • express your hopes/wishes for their future
  • and finish with a toast.

Writing the content

Give yourself time to prepare. Please, don't skimp on this step! It really does underpin your success.

Gather some ideas together. (Relax, they don't have to be perfect!) Beginning will kick-start the creative process and soon you'll find you have more than you can use and you'll be able to choose the best ones.

But before you put pencil to paper though consider your audience and the
purpose of the speech. Leave out references to potentially embarrassing or humiliating incidents, vulgarity, sensitive topics and jokes which only a few understand.

The goal here is inclusively celebrating the couple's new commitment. Alienating groups within your audience isn't what you want to be doing!

"Love one another and you will be happy. It's as simple and as difficult as that."
- Michael Leunig

Use these content ideas as starting points:

  1. interests/hobbies/sports etc that the couple share
  2. their meeting - where and how they met
  3. how you knew the relationship was serious
  4. a quotation, song fragment or poem that expresses an aspect of the couple's relationship you admire
  5. family background
  6. childhood hopes, dreams and happenings
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- Engagement Speech Samples
Read these 5 example engagement toasts from a father, mother, friend, groom and bride-to-be and use them as a starting point to write your own.

Pick the best of your ideas to form the body or middle of speech and then add the opening and conclusion.

Test it by reading it aloud. Is it too long? Too short? Does it make sense - flow from one idea to the next easily?
Revise if necessary.

Once you think you have your engagement party speech more or less how you want it, give it a trial run in front of friends or family.

Ask them to listen to make sure you're covering everything you wanted to appropriately and that you've left nothing really important out.

How to say your engagement party speech

Having invested so much and care in writing the speech it would a total shame not to deliver it well.

The key to great delivery is simple - practice. The more practice you do, the easier it will be to give your speech effortlessly. The starting point is to know it thoroughly so that you are not relying on reading it word for word from a piece of paper.

Cue-Cards

If you need assistance recalling the flow of material consider cue cards.

Reading your text doesn't have the same audience impact as using note or cue cards, or no notes at all.

Click the link to find out how to make and use cue cards.

Rehearsing

Rehearsal

Once you know the flow of your material (and have made your cue cards if you are going to use them) practice your speech by rehearsing in front of a mirror (to see what you are doing while you speak), repeating it over in your mind as your commute, and saying it aloud where ever possible.

Practice speaking clearly, slowly enough for everyone to take in what you are saying and loudly enough for them to hear.

Click this link if you'd like more about how to rehearse. These tips will help you fine tune your performance.


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