Eulogy for My Son

by Earl Timmons
(Delaware)

Andrew Ross Timmons (1989 - 2012)

Andrew Ross Timmons (1989 - 2012)

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning to dance in the rain.”

This is a lesson learned from my son Andrew. Not only did he dance in the rain, he wanted to dance in the rain. Andrew had an exorbitant number of storms during his short life so he knew from experience that another storm was coming on the heels of the one that just passed. If he hadn’t learned to dance; he may have remained dry, but unfulfilled. He was fulfilled.

His brother Max relayed to me just this week that Andrew easily lived two lives in just 23 years. I agree. And more importantly, he enjoyed them both! He had been given the gift to make the most of every day. We have all learned from him.

My son lived his life on his terms. He listened, but did not take advice. He did not conform to social “norms.” But he was not a rebel. He was not rebelling against anything or anyone. He was a free-spirit who lived in the present, and again, on his terms. He was a dreamer. He was a leader. He had followers. He could enter a room and brighten it with his smile, his attitude, or just his presence. He had "it."

I’ve learned over the past week just how strong he was. I’ve learned from him, his brothers, his cousins, and his friends and acquaintances. He made friends so easily and was true to each and every one of them. He supported them, guided them and made them happy. He made me happy.

I stand here today with a broken heart. The loss of a child is something I could have never prepared for. Even during the past week, under insurmountable odds, I refused to prepare myself. I wasn’t ready. I'm still not ready. He had so many dreams and so many plans for the future. He would have made these dreams come true.

He was prepared to fight his disease, but never had a chance to lace up the gloves.* He did not die on his terms. He did not want to leave us. He loved us. He will continue to love us. My son, Andrew Ross Timmons, died a man. He died with the dignity and the respect he deserved. He achieved his goal of making us proud. He achieved his goal of being proud of himself. Our lives will never be the same. He made sure of that.

Andrew, I love you with all my heart; I am profoundly proud of you; you have taught me. I look forward to seeing you again when the time comes. I will continue to be the best dad I can be to your brothers, as you expect. I will continue to seek peace, as you wished. I will not let you down. It’s my turn to make you proud.

Rest in peace; and never, never stop dancing in the rain.

It's all good my son.

*Andrew passed away suddenly from acute leukemia on February 17, 2012

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by: Earl T

To all that have commented, I say thank you.

Nearly 6 years now, and I still hold a heavy heart much of the time. There is no cure for a broken heart. No healing. But to know that someone, anyone, was inspired to use a portion of my words to help ease their pain is an honor.

No permission needed, my text is to be shared, so share away.

I ask only that you say hello as you pass by my words...

Peace

Very beautiful words that moved me.
by: Anonymous

Mr.Timmons those were beautiful words that moved me out of my seat. I can see the love you had for your son and joy he meant to you. With respect for you and your loss, I'd like to use a few of your words to lead me through my own words. I just tragically lost my son and words are so hard to speak, let along to find. There was a lot of strength and power in the words you constructed. God bless and I to look to seal an open heart. Thank you. M. Grace.

Ref: Alex Kelham 29yrs
by: Alison Ames

Dear Earl,
To write a tribute about my son for his funeral on 11th November 2016,is like an impossible task. My heart is broken and my soul kneels in the dust, trying to sum him up... "He was my life".

My deepest condolences, even now at your loss. Oh, to have even known your son would be an honour no doubt. Your words have truly helped me and I thank you for finding the strength to do so.
Yours sincerly,
Alison Ames

Eulogy
by: Andy

Your words are beautiful, and a lot of it applies to my Son, Stuart, who passed away back in March, aged 34.

I too would like to use some of these words, as they so describe my son's short life.

Our respective sons have passed, but memories will live on, Thank you.

Loss of My Beloved Son
by: Andrea

So sorry for the loss of your beloved son. Your eulogy was so beautuful. My son passed away last 1 year ago and we are now honoring his memory next month. I hope that you don't mind that I will use a portion of your eulogy. My own words cannot express the enormous depth of sadness I am still enduring. The hole in my heart hurts terribly. Thank you and my best wishes to you and your family. Andrea

A Tribute
by: Anonymous

What a beautiful tribute to your dear son. His presence will always be with you. I too lost a son. His tired heart stopped beating. He was 54.

Thanks from the UK
by: Steve Rooney

Hi
Went ahead and used part of the text in a service for my son in Bristol, England. The service was held in a church dating back to 1248 which was beautiful accompanied by a wonderful Canadian singer. The words from the text made the whole thing even more wonderful and I too pride in passing on the fact that someone who lives thousands of miles away wrote this and told them your and your son's story Earl. Thank you everyone.

*Steve, Susan here once more. Thank you for reporting back. Wishing you strength and love.

Thank you
by: Anonymous

Thank you so much x

Thank you
by: Steve Rooney

Absolutely lovely. Lost my 22 year old in an accident a couple of weeks ago. We are heartbroken. With your permission I would like to use part of your text. It is so apt, something that can only be understood by those in a similar position. Bless you.

*Steve, Susan here. I'm sure Earl would be more than happy for you to take what you want from his text.

Peace
by: Simon Thompson

Thank you. I lost my son, also called Andrew, to a disease too. He was 26 yrs old. I am going to use your speech, with your blessing. Sounds like they were alike.
Cheers.

My best friend passed from cancer and it still kills me inside
by: Anastasia

My condolences to you and the family. I was actually surprised to see a really good eulogy made from a father's point of view. Thank you for posting this. This has inspired me and many others who have come across it. I lost my best friend from cancer two years ago when I was only 14. I'm now 16 and still think of her everyday. I wish she could see how well I'm doing today but I know she is resting now from all the pain she had to go through. She made us proud and she will never be forgotten.

R.I.P

I am sorry for your loss
by: Carlos

Your love for your son is undeniably eternal. I am a 16 yrs old kid from the Philippines who was inspired not only by your son but also by you, yourself. My teacher showed this eulogy to our class in order for us to give importance to the people who surround us, and also to give a perfect example of how a parent shows their genuine love for their sons and daughters.

I immediately searched for this after I came home from school and now I am here to thank you and your son for inspiring me to be like your son, and maybe if I get to have a child one day I will be like you. Again thank you, and I would like to say that he is guiding you from up there.

Thank You
by: Anonymous

Your strong spirit shows though. I hope I can find the same strength.

My son's poem which I read at his funeral. He also died from AML.
by: Angela

To Garry with love

I’m trying to find the right words to say,
A tribute to my son Garry, on his funeral day.
Even though each word is splashed with tears,
Because Garry leaving us, was all our worst fears.

From the day you were born, my beautiful son,
I held you close until your crying was done.
You grew up so happily, always a smile.
It’s easier to think you’ve only gone for a while.

As the eldest son you‘d put your arm around your brother,
With a heart full of love for your son, wife, father and mother.
It’s hard to accept that you are no longer here
Garry, my beautiful boy, you were amazing it’s clear.

You are locked in my heart and I am saving the key,
To one day open it, when my soul is set free.
The pain is hard to bear now you’ve gone away,
I will love you forever.....what else can I say...

Bless you Garry. Rest in peace, my boy.

Eulogy
by: Aimee

What a wonderful eulogy - I am so sorry for your loss!

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