When you're grieving there may come a time when you want to say OK, alright, I'm done. Enough is enough with this grief. I want to put it down. It's too heavy for me to carry any more.
Maybe that's where you are now. And maybe that's making you frightened, or angry, or perhaps you're running on empty, feeling nothing.
There is no official recipe stipulating the exact ingredients for grief. And just like we don't fully understand what is involved until we experience it, neither do we know how long it takes, before we can say we're through the worst of it.
That's why talking with someone who fully understands, and is professionally trained can be very useful.
How we experience grief is unique.
Today there might be rocks where your heart used to be. Tears may spring from nowhere, and the thoughts in your brain might be stuck on a loop spinning around, and around, and around ...
Tomorrow it could be different.
Despite what well-meaning friends or family might tell you there are no "right" ways to grieve. And neither are there "right" stages which everyone must pass through.
We are unique therefore our experience of grief is unique. We may not progress tidily from this stage to that and, collect our lives back when we pass through the last one.
Grieving is a zig, zag, slip, sliding journey.
Some days it can be hard to eat, to breathe, sleep, brush your hair, get out of bed, get dressed, answer your phone, have a shower or go to work.
It can be tough to find a reason or the energy to do things you once regarded as so ordinary you did them without thinking. Is this you? Perhaps right now you are tired and experience life as a grey blur, sucked of color.
We both know, it will never be the same again. That's true. That's reality.
However there is help and you could use it to find your new normal. You could talk your situation through with a professional.
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