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[Speaking-Out-Loud May 2019] Natural public speaking - becoming the best of yourself
May 21, 2019
In this Issue
Something strange happens to some people the moment they stand up to speak in front of an audience.
Quick as a flash - kapow, kazazz - a switch is flicked and they're somebody else. That someone has a weird voice - strained and artificial. The words they're using don't sound like their own. The combination of a strange voice and strange words is alien coming out their mouths. And the face? It's stiff.
We're suddenly watching and listening to a life-sized puppet version of the real person. It's odd, surreal and ultimately unreal. Just who is this imposter?
Have you had this experience?
I've been there. Done the puppet alien, for lots of reasons. Principally I was shy, anxious and trying hard not to let it show.
Thankfully I finally learned enough to know when I was speaking in front of others I didn't have to be someone else. I didn't need to assume a persona - a mask. Neither did my voice have to be unaturally 'posh' and my naturally 'dramatic' facial expression and movement did not need to be constrained.
I just needed to be me - my best self.
Who is your best self?
Your best self is your naturally easy self, the state in which you feel good about being who you are.
It's you accepting and owning your strengths, as well as your challenges, and allowing others to see them.
Some people call this being 'naked' on stage. I call it being real, being natural. The word 'naked' pulls up alarming images for me! I'm not so sure I want that and quite frankly neither would my audience! But natural, at ease, being myself - yes. That's good.
So how do we stop this try-hard puppet person taking over and allow our best self to stand in front of others?
How to be natural speaking in front of others
Speaking naturally in front of others takes courage and practice and I want to help you with that.
Here's what I know works:
What is the message here?
It's more than OK to be you. Strive to be the best of you and the more you can achieve that, the easier it will be to deliver what you want to say effectively.
What's holding you back?
If fear has grabbed and run off with your confidence here's three options you may like to follow up.
When you leave a job you'll often be asked to say a few words - to give a farewell speech.
And maybe that's the last thing you want to think about and prepare. Because you have so much else to fit in before you go, and so little time to do it all in.
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