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[Speaking-Out-Loud April 2016] Being yourself - no strings attached
April 15, 2016
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There's something strange that happens to many people the moment they stand up to speak in front of an audience.
Quick as a flash - kapow, kazazz - a switch is flicked and there's somebody else on stage.
That someone has a weird voice - strained and artificial. The language they're using isn't their own. It sounds alien coming out of their mouths, and the face? It's stiff.
We're suddenly watching and listening to a life-sized puppet version of the real person.
Have you had this experience? Perhaps you've observed it in yourself. It's odd, surreal, and ultimately unreal. Because it's not you.
When you speak in front of others you don't have to be someone else.
You don't have to assume a persona or wear a mask.
Your voice doesn't have to be unnaturally "posh" and your facial expression and movement constrained.
You just have to be you - your best self. That's the naturally easy self - the state in which you feel good about being who you are - you. It's you accepting and owning your strengths as well as your challenges and allowing others to see them.
Some people call this being "naked" on stage. I call it being real, being natural. The word "naked" pulls up alarming images for me! I'm not so sure I want that degree of exposure and quite frankly neither would my audience! But natural, at ease, being myself - yes. That's good.
So how do we stop this puppet person taking over and allow our best self to stand in front of others?
Being natural on stage takes courage and practice.
To achieve that state of ease try:
The truth is ...
It's more than OK to be you. You are not an impostor. Strive to be the best of you and the more you can achieve that, the easier it will be to deliver your message effectively.
Work your quirk - how personality pays in public speaking - Sarah Lloyd-Hughes from gingerpublicspeaking.com on the value of being yourself.
The key to authentic public speaking - Michelle Mazur on the power of being unapologetically yourself, and other things.
Print and play public speaking game packages
Do you teach public speaking?
Here's 3 tried and tested public speaking games to boost your student's competence and confidence while having a whole lot of fun.
They're extracted from my ebook Public Speaking Games - from fear to fun in 28 ways and perfect if you'd like to experiment with one activity before purchasing 28!
The games come with full instructions and all the resources needed to play them. Open the preview pdfs to find out more about each of them.
1. Focus on presentation skills with Permission to present badly
2. Develop fluency and the confidence to stand in front of others with One minute speeches
3. And banish the mumbles with Tangling tongue twisters.
There's just one link this time rather than three but this is the mother-lode of links! Mastersincommunication.com presents Public Speaking - the top online resources; 102 links helpfully split into four categories.
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