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A Tribute Speech for My Mother: Iris

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My Mother's name marked her out as the goddess of the rainbow, a messenger for the ancient Olympian gods and carrier of faith, hope and wisdom.

She was Iris. And although the given meaning of her name is rich in imagery and history that wasn't what swayed her parent's to call her that.
Instead it was something more immediate.

After her birth my grandmother saw a bed of iris out the bedroom window. She was named for the regal beauty of their dark purple flowers.

Iris, the last of a family of five children, arrived during the Depression Years. At two years old her father died and her family were thrust into hard times. Her brothers and sisters were sent out to work as soon as they were old enough. There was no government assistance for widows in those days.

On eve of World War Two she left school to work too. She was thirteen years old and as she said, knew nothing about anything.
Soon being a shop girl behind the Woolworth's counter was no longer enough. She wanted to understand. She wanted to do things, be someone who knew stuff and went places. That hunger drove her to night school and a secretarial course. She even took speech lessons to learn as she said with a smile, 'to talk proper'.

Nothing, not even God, was exempt from her desire to break free of limitations imposed by circumstance. Her staunch Catholic upbringing and regular church attendence was questioned. The family fall-out from her decision to abandon it was legendary. My Great-Grandmother locked her in her room for several days. Prayers were said and priests brought to the door. However threats of hell-fire and eternal damnation were powerless against her will to know for herself. Finally her family relented, the door was opened and she was reluctantly set free.

By the time WW2 ended Iris had emerged as a competent personal secretary who enjoyed life.

In 1947 she met my father. It was 'love at first sight' and they married six weeks later.

Let's fast forward eighteen years now.

Iris and Graham had five children. I am the eldest and the youngest was two when, in a curious repetition of family history, my father died. This time, in this generation, there was a widow's benefit and although meagre, it kept us going. My Mother was grateful.

Events in times of great shock are tattooed into memories and their images remain despite the wear of years. From those chaotic early days of struggling to find a sense of place without my father, to effectively parent five children on her own, to balance growing financial demands against a small fixed income and more, flow a stream of images, each portraying aspects of Iris I respect and revere.

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From my gallery:

• The God Books. This what we called them as children. They were philosophy and discussions on varying world religions. Often they were baptised in the bath. At the end of the day that was where she read and invariably nodded off. Sodden books, face down, their leaves splayed to dry was a common sight.



• Flowers. No matter how fraught she was with us children and her situation there were always fresh flowers: a bowl of velvet pansies, roses, or whatever was in season from her garden. They were, to use her expression, a hyacinth for the soul. For she knew 'Man can not live by bread alone.' Beauty was essential.



• Money Jars. In the high cupboard above the kitchen bench were a series of labelled jars. 'Food', 'Electricity', 'Phone', and so on. Every time her widow's benefit was paid out each jar got its alotted portion.



• Midnight Nursing. My two youngest siblings suffered chronic bronchitis. Many nights I awoke to find her cradling one and sometimes both. She'd be wrapped in her old blue dressing gown,her long brown hair hanging loose, crooning and gently rocking them back to sleep.



• The Old Ford Cortina. It was called Flower Power, sported a huge stylised daisy on its boot and was her faithful friend. She drove it everywhere, always, to my brother's embarrassment, at the same speed, slowly.



• Carrot Juice. In this Iris was a trend setter. Long before the eat-healthy gurus arrived on the scene advocating 'raw this' and 'juiced that' with a side dish of mung bean sprouts, my mother was buying sacks of carrots for the daily juice-up. Every morning six glasses were lined up on the kitchen bench, one for each of us. Inevitably they'd been done early and by the time we got to them a top layer of brown scum had formed. 'Gross' was our response but she was adamant. Drinking or not drinking the stuff was a battle of wills. Mostly she won.



• Her Spinning Wheel. The soft clack, clack of its whirr became a familiar sound track to our lives. Along with the wheel came bags of wool straight off the sheep. The end result was homespun garments for everyone. Later she added learning to use natural dyes and weaving to her skills. The dye brews resembled a witch's cauldron. Into them went onion skins, green walnuts, lichens, flower petals, anything that might yield up its color.

When seen through my teenage eyes much of who she was and what she did was incomprehensible. On a superficial level she was a Mother doing what Mother's did, mothering. Beyond that, despite there being enormous differences between her and other 1960's mothers, I didn't really understand or fully appreciate the gifts she brought.

The hindsight of passing years and growing maturity have slowly revealed her real value. I look now and am humbled. The enormity of raising five children on her own and all the while hounded by the fear of 'never having enough money' impact like hammer blows. I can only marvel at the strength of will and determination that kept her going.

I have her hunger and respect for knowledge to thank for my education. I remember a small but significant scene that took place a year or so after my father died. A couple of well-meaning older friends were discussing our financial situation. 'Of course Susan will leave school and...', one of them began. My Mother cut her short.'No.That will never happen. We'll manage.' We did and I got an education, as did those following me.

The freedom to investigate and believe what we wanted to about the BIG questions she actively encouraged. The memory of her own struggle for permission and the right to find her own path was to leave us free. So that while there always the backdrop of her ongoing inquiry into religious beliefs, morality and spirituality it was never foisted on us. Her faith that we would each find our 'right' path and relationship within what it is to be human living in the world held us strongly. We were never in any doubt as to who was ultimately responsible for the lives we would lead. It was us.

Beauty is free. That's another legacy from her. It's everywhere if you have eyes to see it: a sun rise, a child's smile, a flower from the garden, a meal prepared with love, or a tree in autumn. Appreciation of it doesn't increase with the amount of money in your wallet.

And that was Iris, our mother, our flesh and blood version of her overlooked namesake the goddess of the rainbow. She was our example of persistence, courage, service, faith, hope, love of beauty and the ongoing quest for truth.

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