Have you wondered how to use humor effectively in speeches?
What gets a laugh? What doesn't, and why?
Most of us, myself included, want to effortlessly entertain as well as inform. We know and appreciate the gifts humor brings. There's audience rapport; their bright-eyed eagerness to hear what you have to share, their easy readiness to laugh, the way they lean forward to catch your next comment ...
But what if they don't?
What if your carefully polished laugh line isn't caught up, and falls to the floor, shriveling?
What if they fold their arms, raise their eyebrows, and look away?
Use the links below to move around this long page easily. They'll give a good starting point toward understanding how humor works.
Suggestions to avoid the pain of not being funny when you intended to be
And for those of you who are unsure whether or not to risk adding a laugh - The benefits of using humor in a speech.
Plan your humor around your audience.
To make it work well you need to know:
A joke told without knowledge of the audience because you think it is funny is dangerous. They are often the ones most likely to implode leaving you stranded.
How do you know they won't find it offensive?
How do you know they'll understand it at all?
varies from person to person and group to group. What we find funny is
not a reliable indication that everyone else will find the same type of
humor amusing. Do some digging. Find out as much as you can.
Use humor that doesn't use the audience as the butt of the joke.
This is not the time to make jokes about audiences so thick their brains are the consistency of concrete or similar observations.
Use humor that doesn't isolate and target a segment of the audience: blondes, males, females ... any descriptor that separates and sets one group up to laugh at another.
Use humor that doesn't rely on coarse language or profanity to make its point.
Use humor that avoids taboo subjects: religion, politics, race, class or sex.
Using humor effectively often means using yourself as the subject but in a kindly way, making sure it is relevant to your speech topic.
Nobody wants to hear or see you putting yourself down consistently. You may laugh at your foibles or quirks publicly but not prostrate yourself for a whipping in front of an audience. That will embarrass them.
When you laugh at yourself in a balanced, truthful way you are giving the audience permission to laugh with you, not at you. You are also inviting them to identify with you, creating openness and trust. The audience will be more likely to listen because you're reflecting or showing them an aspect they know to be true of themselves, as well as you.
Use subjects you've earned the right to joke about.
For example an over weight person may make comments about being large,
a disabled person can joke about the difficulties they encounter on a daily basis or a woman can laugh about the trials of child bearing, provided she has had a child.
A safe guideline is, if you don't know it, as in having lived it, don't jest or make light of it.
Weave your jokes or humor into a small story or anecdote related to your topic while keeping the ratio of laugh-lines to information balanced appropriately for the style of speech.
If your speech is primarily to entertain rather than inform, it may be appropriate to use more humor. Judge each situation carefully.
Remember the 'rule of three'
The rule of three works in all areas of presentation. It can be three examples to illustrate a point. It could three repetitions of the same word or phrase for emphasis, a device often used in oratory or three characters in an anecdotal story. (An Irishman, Australian and an American!)
Three in storytelling is a naturally believable number whether it be words to describe people and their actions or the events themselves. The first usage sets whatever it is up in the audience's mind as possibly believable. The second, reinforces it and by the time the third instance comes along, the audience has accepted it as truth. Three, works!
It is better to have several strong anecdotes in your presentation rather than a string of weak ones.
Always rehearse and test the humor you plan to use.
To test have several people listen and give you honest feedback. Listen
to the feedback. It maybe that the subject is wrong for the situation,
or perhaps your delivery needs work, or your language choice needs
altering. Any of those could cause a joke to fall flat.
Integrate any joke/humorous remark you make into your speech or presentation.
If you're thinking of telling the joke because you think it's a good one and bound to get you laughs but it has nothing to do with your speech topic, leave it out. It might be hilarious, but it is not relevant. Unless you find a plausible, believable way to link the humor into your subject, forget it.
And if you do want to tell a joke or add humor and IT IS relevant make sure it is not introduced along the lines of:
'Have you heard the one about ...?'
'This is really funny. You're going to howl with laughter.'
'There was this Irishman/Scotsman/Australian...'
None of these openings show the humor is blended with your own material and the second one is particularly nasty if your audience sits poker faced!
Unless you were briefed to be a comedian, don't attempt
it. This doesn't mean don't use humor. It means stick to your speech
purpose and find the humor from within that subject matter. The audience
is not expecting a stand-up comedy routine from you.
Giggle, Chortle and Smile
Use an expressive voice.
Live into the story you are telling to make it seem as if it were happening again in the 'here and now'. This gives the audience the 'feel' of the situation. They will grasp it and the emotional content more quickly.
If you need a hand, you'll find it here:
How to develop and use an expressive Voice
These simple vocal variety exercises will help you identify where you need to place your effort.
Use simple pared down language.
The less complicated the set-up and story, the more direct it is and the less chance your audience has of misunderstanding. For help with how to enter or set up a story check this page on story-telling step-ups. You'll find examples of what not, and what to do to.
Practice telling your story in as many ways as you can, and listen.
What happens if you speed up here, and slow down there?
What happens if you emphasize this word instead of that word?
As a general rule comedians point up the punch line. They give a cue to the audience that it is coming, preparing them to listen and laugh using a combination of slowing down, pausing and emphasis.
It's called finding 'the beat'. Miss it and nobody will laugh. Find it and the same joke that previously bombed will fly. The only sure fire way to locate it is through practice. After enough, you'll sense it and know when to slow, pause and stress a word.
Make a distinction between the humor and yourself.
Are you funny or is the story you are telling funny?
For example, a comedian who has learned how to use humor effectively, does not laugh at his own jokes as it breaks the illusion of truth. When you laugh at your own material you are on the outside of it, looking in, rather than BEING it.
Use simple large gestures.
If you are going to incorporate acting into your story practice using clear decisive gestures rather than a flurry of small ones.
Think mime. It crosses audience boundaries easily through involving your whole body in the action. Everybody, regardless of who they are or the language they speak, understands the body language of weeping in despair, pulling your hair out in desperation, or swooning with love.
For an introduction to using gesture in speeches check this page on characterization techniques. You'll find exercises to help you.
Humor is usually part of its context. In other words it is derived from the situation or setting.
Here's a wonderful and true story to illustrate.
In one of my classes I had a very mouthy, opinionated student. Whatever the subject he knew more about it than anybody else and he always made sure everybody knew, he knew. He corrected, interrupted, and sometimes jeered at his classmates.
One day in the middle of yet another uncalled for torrent of information, a hanging pot plant right above him let go of its hook in the ceiling. It crashed spectacularly on his desk showering him in earth, plant and shards of pottery. The class, dissolving into mirth, fell off their chairs laughing and through it I heard someone say; 'I reckon that's instant karma, Jason.'
A joke is often isolated from or very loosely connected to what is happening. It tends to be a pre-formatted story following known, well worn lines.
How can you tell when a blonde has been using your computer?
Answer: There is twink (white-out or correction fluid) on the screen.
When you use humor well you benefit, along with your audience.
Would you like to know more about how to use humor effectively?
Put more and varied fare in your laugh menu.
Find out about differing types of verbal humor.
Your audience will appreciate it.
When you've finished discovering the joy of strategically using a sprinkle of malapropisms with a side serving of light irony, try some physical humor.
In the meantime:
PRACTICE telling your stories, PRACTICE timing and PRACTICE looking for the comedic or humorous element in all the events of your life.
If you're considering entering a humorous speech contest, please don't do as I did!
Read about what happened when I overlooked a critical element in my preparation. This was a humorous speech lesson I'll remember!