By: Susan Dugdale | Last modified: 09-28-2023
Understandably many women feel a little bit nervous about writing a maid of honor speech for their sister!
After all, this can be a daunting task. You love your sister. And she's honored you, by choosing you for this special role.
The last thing you want is to embarrass her, or her wedding guests, on her big day. But what do you say?
What are the right words to reflect your relationship with your sister? How do you sincerely share the happiness you feel for her and her new husband-to-be?
And where, on earth, do you begin?
The answer is here. The good news is that it's straight forward, and simple. Not hard work at all.
How to brainstorm: the process from generating ideas to selecting the best ones to use, step by step.
The five parts of the speech template with explanatory notes and example text:
A FREE printable maid of honor speech outline to help you effectively organize and order what you want to say
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Grab a piece of paper, a pen, and start with a brainstorming session to collect up the stories and ideas you think you might like to share.
Then follow each of the five steps in the maid of honor speech outline that form the speech template below.
You'll come out the other end of the process with a short, simple and sincere speech: one that really does honor your sister on her wedding day. Read the example speech and see for yourself!
The best way to begin writing the perfect maid of honor speech for your sister is to collect your thoughts together. And the best way to do that is to brainstorm.
The brainstorming process is very simple. Jot down ideas about what you think you want to touch on in your speech, just as I've done in the image above.
Allow yourself complete freedom to explore as many potential topics as you can and, as much time as you need.
Recall fond memories. Remember shared experiences: the good times, the hard times and the funny times. Think about her best qualities: the ones you admire her for.
Do not edit yourself! Put down whatever comes into your mind. Don't stop to worry about whether it's good, bad or appropriate. You'll review it later, and definitely don't stop to check your spelling!
You do not need to write full sentences or paragraphs: just notes. You want enough words to trigger your memory about what you thought would be a good idea to say and that's all.
If you run out of paper, get another piece. Keep going until you can genuinely think of nothing more.
Next you will pick the best of these ideas and organize them into the 5 sections of the template below. This will give your speech a logical structure: a clear beginning, middle and end.
Obviously, the tone: whether the speech is laugh-out-loud funny, wryly amusing, sentimental or heartfelt and sincere, is something you'll decide for yourself. That's governed by the stories and ideas you choose to share and the language you use to express them.
This example maid of honor speech is based on the notes from the brainstorm image above.
The text of the speech is split into five parts: one for each of the required sections. As you scroll down the page you'll see it in the green call-out box under each section's explanatory notes.
In the introduction it's customary to identify yourself because there may be guests who don't know you and don't know you are the bride's sister.
Next you welcome the guests to your sister's wedding reception, thank the happy couple for letting everyone share in their day, and then you thank your sister for the privilege of being her maid of honor.
(I've added a story too: to make it more interesting and bring a smile!☺)
Next, you could share a short story: something humorous, or anecdotal, about the bride from your childhood memories. This will give the audience a picture of your relationship with her, and also set the tone for the rest of the speech.
Whether you choose to write something funny, serious or sentimental, the most important thing to remember is to be genuine.
This next section focuses on your sister's life and what she was doing before she met her new spouse.
For example, maybe she was busy focused on her career and never really gave enough time to finding a best friend and life-partner.
Or perhaps your sister was having a good time travelling the world when she found her match.
Or did she fall for her good friend, the person next door whom she's known since she was eight?
There are a couple of things to watch out for.
The first is to be mindful about sharing anything that could be embarrassing for either your sister, her new husband, or your family members and friends. (Past relationships are generally off limits.)
In addition, please don't fall into the trap of sharing a tale or something about your sister that no one can relate to except for you and her. If you do that you'll find yourself looking at puzzled faces.
Next, transition to a paragraph about your sister and her husband. How did they meet? How has the groom changed your sister’s life?
You can talk about how inspiring their relationship is to you or share a humorous story involving your sister and new brother-in-law.
This part doesn’t have to be very long. It's necessary because it brings your speech into the present. A good way to conclude this portion is by formally welcoming the groom into your family.
There are many possibilities for a conclusion. You could end with a quote, a joke, some spiritual advice, a toast or simply say, congratulations.
Do try to keep with the tone you’ve set in the rest of the speech and end with what feels most appropriate for your sister.
This printable maid of honor speech outline template *pdf will help you organize and order the stories and ideas you generate for your speech when you do the **brainstorming exercise.
Follow the step-by-step instructions on page 1 of the template, select what you want to use from your brainstorm notes, and enter them in the right places.
Once the outline is complete, you'll be ready to turn it into a speech.
To get the printable either click on the image below or this link: maid of honor speech outline.
(*The pdf will open in a new window.)
(**For best results do the brainstorming exercise before trying to complete the template.)
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