By: Susan Dugdale | Last modified: 06-20-2021
Writing a eulogy is an enormous challenge. You want it to be right: an honest and memorable tribute encapsulating all that was uniquely special about this dear person you loved.
But how do you achieve that? Where do you begin?
I understand the struggle to marshal thoughts together when you're in the midst of grief. It's hard.
That's why I've grouped all the resources I have about writing a eulogy, including examples of eulogies, in one place: this page.
It's a kind of directory to give you access to all the information you need.
Links to dozens of sample eulogies. You'll find eulogies for:
Links to onsite resources for writing eulogies:
Links to resources to help with grief
Reading what other people have written will help you form your own ideas. It's a great way to start when you're feeling overwhelmed.
Find a eulogy you like - one whose tone, style and structure feels right to you. Then, if you wish to, you can take it, and make it your own. Follow the pattern. Swap out the stories. Put yours in. Change what you need to, to make it true for you.
Or you can follow my step by step guidelines for writing a eulogy. That's how many of the eulogies below were written.
They've been written by people all over the world: USA, Mexico, England, Ireland, Scotland, Australia, South Africa, Cape Verde, India, Philippines ...
What they have in common is the desire to celebrate their loved ones the best way they can, and generosity.
They've sent their eulogies to me to share, in the hope they help those who read them.
The result is a rich, diverse collection representing multiple cultures and religions.
As you read, listen. You'll hear their voices: their sincerity, their passion, bewilderment, understanding, humor... In short, you'll hear humanity.
(Find out more about how, and why, people share the funeral tributes they have written.)
Mothers. Mums. Mammas. Moms. Hard workers, truth tellers, fun lovers, miracle workers, passionate defenders and supporters of their children. Their lives are recalled and celebrated by their sons and daughters with love, humor, honesty and gratitude.
The eulogies are very different in tone and content. What unites them is their theme: deep love and respect for the women who gave their writers' life.
Dad. Papa. Father. Pop. The old man. Whatever you call him he's the man who parented you through your childhood and, beyond.
The collection of eulogies for Dads celebrates men who became fathers late in life, men who struggled with addiction and won, men who taught their sons "guy kind-of" things, men who adored their grandchildren, men who worked so hard day after day to provide for their families ...
They're a rich, beautiful acknowledgment of the role fathers play in their children's lives.
Having to write a eulogy for your son or daughter is almost unbearable to think about. And yet some of us have to.
There are two eulogies for sons below. Both are heartbreakingly tender testimonies of love, each in their own way. The first has helped many people since I put it online. You'll see that reflected in the comments.
We've also got two eulogies for little sisters: the first written by her big sister and the second by her big brother. Again, they are very different in treatment and content, and yet they share the same sentiment: gratitude for a much loved younger sister.
Adored big brothers. Rascally little brothers. Special brothers. Brothers with smiles so wide they had to pin their ears back to fit them in. Here are five eulogies sharing the pleasure, joy and, sometimes the pain, of having a brother.
Uncles. In some families they're a bit like spare Dads. They lend a hand, give advice, teach you a thing or two, tease, and love you whether you are up or down. The uncles in the three eulogies below did all of that and more.
Grannies, grandmas, nannies ... Whatever you call them in many families these women are dearly loved by their grandchildren for many things: the stories they tell, the fun they have when they're together, the way they love unconditionally, for the examples they set, and ultimately, for being themselves.
There are eulogies here for English, American, Indian, and Australian grandmothers, all of whom were adored.
How do you fittingly honor the relationship you had with your Grandfather in a eulogy?
Perhaps your grandfather was an inspiration to you. A shining example of selfless manhood. Perhaps he was dance partner, a poet, and a friend. Perhaps he was a hardworking, generous man.
Read these eulogies. They'll help you find a way to express what was uniquely special to you about your grandfather.
In-laws. Father, mother, sister or brother-in-law, they've been the butt of jokes forever. That aside they're an integral part of families, and many of us forge dear, close bonds with them. We love those people and love having them in our lives.
The eulogies for father-in-laws are from a son and a daughter-in-law. The ones for sister-in-laws were written by a sister and a brother-in-law.
We spend an enormous amount of time working, often in the same workplace, with the same people for many years.
Naturally, some of the relationships we form will be highly significant for the long lasting positive impact they have on our lives.
Its those people, extraordinary colleagues and friends, who have been written about in the eulogies below.
Eleanor Roosevelt said, "Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart."
The eulogies below celebrate true friends: those whom we trust, we love, we laugh with, we cry with, those people who bring us joy, who understand us.
We're human. We form all sorts of relationships with all sorts people who become, through the quality of the connection, important to us. They could be our teachers, our ministers, mentors ... even, ourselves.